Case in point: Two people meet through Orkut, chat for a while in GTalk, seem to like each other a lot, decide to exchange phone numbers, talk some more, the length of calls extending to hours, even midnight calls, finally deciding to meet up at a nearby café… becoming very good friends, then something more than that, “special” friends, and finally boyfriend -girlfriend….. Two months down the lane they break up…. Reason? They realized they aren’t compatible. Very different from their virtual images, they find it difficult to adjust to each other. End result: Lots of pain and a broken relationship.
Does this scenario sound very familiar? As if it has happened to you, or to someone whom you knew/know? Shocking, isn’t it? But its true… all of us have somehow got trapped in the images we have created for ourselves. Personalities defined by “cute guys’ or “love gals”, they become the identity after a while. In the absence of face to face interactions between people, cell phones and internet taking the place of actual meetings, we have somehow become very recluse and shy in the presence of other people. No longer it’s the letters and cards that announce the oncoming of a festival or good news, but e- cards and e- mails that hound our inboxes. Invitations of marriages and birthday wishes are also send nowadays via scraps. But are they actually able to convey the warmth that hand written letters and cards are able to do? I think not. We have become so busy or rather I would say careless that a personal touch goes missing in all our dealings. Isn’t it fun to pounce upon friends on their birthdays with cakes and then muck their faces with it? Or meet old school buddies at those favorite hangouts instead of scrapping them once in two three months?
At all times it’s important to maintain that essential human contact and not entirely lose away to the virtual world. The aspect of trust also diminishes because imposters aren’t very uncommon on net. But on the flip side personally I have met so many wonderful people through the internet itself that I feel it would be entirely wrong on my part to blame others for spending too much time online. Also it becomes easy to remain in contact with all the long lost friends through internet. So be careful while dealing with strangers, and don’t restrict yourself to internet and encourage that friendship (to the people whom you know) to grow over time….
Does this scenario sound very familiar? As if it has happened to you, or to someone whom you knew/know? Shocking, isn’t it? But its true… all of us have somehow got trapped in the images we have created for ourselves. Personalities defined by “cute guys’ or “love gals”, they become the identity after a while. In the absence of face to face interactions between people, cell phones and internet taking the place of actual meetings, we have somehow become very recluse and shy in the presence of other people. No longer it’s the letters and cards that announce the oncoming of a festival or good news, but e- cards and e- mails that hound our inboxes. Invitations of marriages and birthday wishes are also send nowadays via scraps. But are they actually able to convey the warmth that hand written letters and cards are able to do? I think not. We have become so busy or rather I would say careless that a personal touch goes missing in all our dealings. Isn’t it fun to pounce upon friends on their birthdays with cakes and then muck their faces with it? Or meet old school buddies at those favorite hangouts instead of scrapping them once in two three months?
At all times it’s important to maintain that essential human contact and not entirely lose away to the virtual world. The aspect of trust also diminishes because imposters aren’t very uncommon on net. But on the flip side personally I have met so many wonderful people through the internet itself that I feel it would be entirely wrong on my part to blame others for spending too much time online. Also it becomes easy to remain in contact with all the long lost friends through internet. So be careful while dealing with strangers, and don’t restrict yourself to internet and encourage that friendship (to the people whom you know) to grow over time….
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